From "Me" to "We": Rethinking Leadership for 2026

By Rodney Cox

Ministry Insights

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Every January, leaders feel it. That pressure to be more—more visionary, more decisive, more capable.

We look at the year ahead and unconsciously slip into hero mode, believing that great leadership means having all the answers, carrying all the weight, and being the smartest person in the room. 

If I don’t do it, it won’t get done right. 

But what if everything we’ve been taught about leadership has it backward? 

I’ve watched countless leaders burn out trying to be the hero their organization needs. The leader who can’t find anyone else to “get it right.” The one who answers every email personally because “no one else knows our people like I do.” The leader who can’t take a day off because “my team isn’t ready.” The one who plans everything, trains everyone, and shows up early because “someone has to hold it all together.” They’re exhausted. Their teams are underutilized. And the organization isn’t growing the way it could.

There’s a better way. And it starts with a radical mindset shift.

The Biblical Foundation: Leadership Is About “We,” Not “Me”

Scripture is clear about God’s design for leadership, even if it contradicts our cultural narratives about success.

Paul writes in Philippians 2:3-4, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Think about that. We’re called to not see ourselves too highly. We’re called to esteem others higher than ourselves. This isn’t just nice religious language—it’s a profound truth about how kingdom leadership actually works.

Jesus modeled this perfectly. He said, “The greatest among you shall be your servant” (Matthew 23:11). He came not to be served, but to serve. The Son of God—the one person in all of history who actually could do everything perfectly—chose to empower others instead. Why? Because God’s design has never been about solo superheroes.

It’s about the body of Christ, where every part matters, every gift is needed, and every person has something unique to contribute.

Here’s the truth that should reshape how we lead: God gave you a team, and leadership is more about “them” than “you.” When we lead from a “me” mindset, we become bottlenecks. When we lead from a “we” mindset, we become multipliers.

Three Counterintuitive Mindset Shifts

1. Let Go to Multiply

Most leaders hold onto tasks and decisions because they believe letting go means losing control. But the opposite is true. Maybe you’re the one who insists on approving every piece of communication. Or you personally process every application. Or you can’t let anyone else handle key relationships. Or you have to review every piece of work before it goes out. When you delegate based on others’ strengths—not just to lighten your load, but to genuinely empower them—your impact multiplies. One person can only do so much. But a team of people operating in their God-given strengths? That’s exponential impact. Letting go isn’t about you doing less. It’s about the mission accomplishing more.

The question isn’t, “Can I do this task?” The question is, “Who on my team is wired by God to do this better than me?”

2. Think “We” Before “Me”

Ask yourself: When you picture success in your leadership, what do you see?

Is it: 

• You being recognized? 

• You being impressive? 

• You getting the credit? 

Or is it:

• Your team thriving? 

• Your people growing? 

• Collective impact increasing? 

Kingdom leadership doesn’t measure success by how indispensable you’ve made yourself—but by how well others are using their gifts. Thinking higher doesn’t mean elevating yourself. It means elevating your team. 

3. Know Less, Discover More

We’ve been conditioned to believe leaders must have all the answers. But what if curiosity about others’ strengths is more valuable than confidence in your own abilities? 

When you stop needing to be the expert, others step up. 

• The quiet team member may excel at systems. 

• The disengaged one may be waiting for the right question. 

• The hesitant leader may simply need permission. 

You don’t need all the answers when you have a team full of gifted, Spirit-led people. Your job isn’t to know everything. Your job is to create an environment where everyone can contribute what God gave them. 

Practical Application: Making the Shift in 2026

Start With Yourself. Before you can lead a “we-focused” team, you need honest self-awareness of your strengths  and  weaknesses. 

Here’s the liberating truth: Your weaknesses aren’t problems to fix. They’re invitations to invite others in. God intentionally designed you to need your team. That’s not a flaw—it’s the design. 

A Prayer of Gratitude

Thank You, Father, for creating us incomplete. Thank You for giving us strengths that reflect Your image and withholding gifts that would make us self-sufficient. Help us lead like Jesus—serving others, empowering people, and multiplying Your kingdom. Give us humility to know ourselves and wisdom to steward the teams You’ve entrusted to us. May we move from “me” to “we” in every decision this year. Amen. 

Your Next Step

This year, choose a different kind of resolution. 

Not to do more. 

Not to work harder. 

But to lead differently. 

God didn’t call you to be the hero. 

He called you to be a servant leader. 

Let’s make 2026 the year of “we.”

A Note From Bishop Ainsworth

I definitely recommend taking the Leading From Your Strengths assessment. It reveals both what you bring to the table and what you need from others.  Our staff uses this tool, and it has been very helpful.  

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